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  • KITM helps children, parents and families thrive during and after divorce through counseling, education and support. Click here to watch the video.

  • I brought my older son years ago when his father and I separated. He was 4 or 5 at the time. My son is now 17, and setting forth into life as a responsible and amazing young adult.

    KITM was the place where he had the security to begin exploring the complex emotions any child faces while his family is changing shape. It’s where he learned how to name those emotions, sort them, and choose how to behave in the face of them. Now that he is 17, I can see the incredible investment we made in his well-being, together. I will be grateful to KITM always.

  • The following article appeared in an edition of the St. Louis Post-Dispatch. It is reprinted here with permission from the newspaper and reporter, Susan Weich. 

    Smith’s daughter didn’t want anyone at her school to know her parents had divorced, so an art class project to make a Christmas ornament for her parents presented a problem. How would she decide whether to give the ornament to her mom or her dad?

    “As a parent I worried about these really big things — are my kids going to turn to drugs or start failing in school because of the divorce — but I found out that kids have to deal with a lot of little things that I never imagined,” Smith said.

    Smiths’ daughter shared her problem at a group counseling session of Kids In The Middle, a nonprofit organization started in 1977 that provides support for children and families when parents separate or divorce. “Luckily, she was able to talk with the other kids in the group about how they would handle it,” she said. When her daughter told Smith, she met with teachers and asked them if they could discreetly give her and her younger brother the OK to make two of whatever gifts they made for parents. “There’s not always an easy solution, but now I am more aware of things that could be an issue,” she said.

  • I started going to Kids In The Middle after my mom & dad separated. I was very sad and depressed. And for some reason, I don’t know why, I just started pulling my eyelashes and my eyebrows out. My mom was very upset, but I didn’t want to talk with her. I thought she might get mad at me. So that’s when I went to Kids In The Middle. At first, I was really nervous, and I thought I might get embarrassed about what was going on or if people looked at me. And I was scared because I didn’t know what to expect there. But when I met my therapist, she was really nice and I wasn’t scared anymore. All the therapists were really nice and I liked talking with them. That’s what really helped me the most – just being able to talk to someone else, and I knew they wouldn’t tell anybody what I said, or they wouldn’t judge me.

    I really liked talking with the other kids in the group and hearing what they had to say, because I knew the other kids were going through the same thing as me. And I wanted to see how they handled things. It made me feel not so alone, and it made me feel more normal. The group kind of made me forget about the separation, and sometimes we would even talk about other things that were bothering us, too. The group helped me grow and cope better.

    The therapists taught me how to deal with my feelings and how to handle situations. My therapist gave me a list of how to cope with your worries and your stress. On the list there were healthy ways to cope, and there were unhealthy ways.